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AI matching: separating hype from helpful signals

· By Dr. Alan Porter

Signals that actually help

Message cadence, topic diversity, and willingness to confirm plans modestly predict ghosting risk—but not long-term satisfaction. Better models weight values statements you verify through prompts, not just swipe direction history.

Known limits

No API reads “chemistry.” Algorithms can reduce bad pairings; they cannot manufacture consent or emotional labor. Treat percentage scores as triage, not prophecy.

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Human checkpoints

Weekly reflection—“did I feel more seen?”—anchors tech outputs to somatic truth. Pair app usage with offline hobbies so self-worth is not entirely algorithm-conditioned.

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